The science of safety explains the way we experience the world. The way we interpret our level of safety greatly impacts our health and happiness.
The basic idea comes from the polyvagal theory. It gives us a guide for living that is filled with hope and optimism because, when we feel safe, we access the best version of ourselves.
Fear shapes all our protective habits and hangups.
Without fear we have more compassion, creativity, curiosity, confidence, courage, calm, connectedness, and clarity.
The science of safety approach to healing and change.
Fear versus safety is universal. This explains human behaviour in many ways and forms.
Our body, and love (relationships) are all affected when we approach them with fear.
Our culture teaches us to fear certain body shapes our bodies can change the way people respond to us. We, in turn, create protections out of these insecurities that, for some, become a small prison of existence.
Breaking free of this trap requires courage, which arises from a feeling of safety.
How do we begin to create safety?
It starts with the nervous system and learning to notice, befriend, and refocus with solutions to calm the nervous system.
In simple terms, we get really good at practicing resilience and stress management.
Without a calm nervous system, we will never have the clarity of thought to accomplish our goals. A stressed nervous system is a reactive and protective system, which creates limiting beliefs.
Next, we become mindful of things that make our body feel safe or unsafe.
This is a journey of building an owner’s manual for yourself. It includes, how you move your body, and the environment you live in. Learning to balance your sleep or even your blood sugar can profoundly improve your mood and anxiety.
Developing insight about the body as a protective fear response. Sleep, gut health, and other lifestyle factors prompt changes that are born out of creating safety and not driven by fear of disease.
Understanding the workings of our body can shift us from fighting against to collaborating with ourselves.
The science of safety Thought Management.
Our brain is hardwired to seek out danger and protect us from the worst case scenario, which ramps up our fear.
Learning to manage this computer in our head takes mindful practice, clarity of values, and positive manifestations.
Our habits are highly protected. Embarking on any behaviour change requires a good dose of knowledge, persistence, and practice.
Lastly, we are built for connections and relationships. Finding and maintaining safe relationships is essential to wellbeing but requires safety.
Learning to apply the science of safety or “the love code” in all your interactions with others not only helps you personally but also makes the world a better place.
